Silence never helps

In the last 4 years I've made very few friends. I was very very careful before calling someone as friend, forget about calling someone close friend. There was this one guy who was 2 years younger to me, and he had lost his dad when he was 5 years old. I felt sad for him and used to guide him as much as I could. He became a good friend, one of the very few guys I could trust. Since he didn't have a room to stay, I offered him space and he was one of my roommates for the last 7 months. After all those days, now our relationship is completely different. He had done things behind my back thinking I wouldn't know, but I'm just cursed to find the truth someway, someday, always. I had to respond to 2 of his emails to explain my behavior for being so indifferent nowadays to the so called concept known as "friendship".

One of our common friends told me to talk to him, but then I didn't feel like it. So he asked me to not reply at all, but then I didn't want someone to keep wondering what really happened, like how I've been wondering all these years myself to find answers to questions which are haunting me. But I decided, I'll reply, but only after my anger recedes.

There are 3 reasons why I would reply back

1. I don't want to let him keep pondering why I never bothered to open my mouth.
2. My reply will clearly explain my behavior and will give him an option to clear his conscience or learn from it.
3. Though he hurt me real bad, I wouldn't want to hurt him anymore. All he needs is a reply, let me give him one.
4. I don't want to be misunderstood ever in my life.

I learnt "Silence Never Helps" the torturest way in my life. Always speak what it is in your mind, even if it doesn't help you, it might help others. I defined my life living for others, my thoughts wouldn't apply to others, anyway.....

Living for others, helpings others to live

Another beautiful post which I just adore.

A few years ago at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash. At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.

All, that is, except one boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry. They slowed down and looked back. They all turned around and went back. Every one of them.

One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said, "This will make it better."

All nine linked arms and walked across the finish line together.

Everyone in the stadium stood, and the cheering went on for several minutes. People who were there are still telling the story. Why? Because deep down we know this one thing:

What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves.

What truly matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.

Origins: The story is more true than not, although its primary point has been grossly exaggerated. According to folks at the Special Olympics Washington office, the incident happened at a 1976 track and field event held in Spokane, Washington. A contestant did take a tumble, and one or two of the other athletes turned back to help the fallen one, culminating in their crossing the finish line together, but it was only one or two, not everyone in the event. The others continued to run their race.

The story is thus not about an entire class of "special people" who spontaneously tossed aside their own dreams of going for gold in favor of helping a fallen competitor, but rather one about a couple of individuals who chose to go to the aid of another contestant. Unfortunately, this tale as it is now being told helps further a stereotype that deficiencies in intelligence are compensated for by unfailingly sweet natures and a way of looking at the world in childlike wonder. Special Olympians train long and hard for their events and are every bit as committed as athletes who compete in any other athletic endeavors. The Special Olympics are not a casual get-together organized to give less fortunate members of the community a day to socialize and perhaps run in a foot race or two. They're highly organized sporting events taken very seriously by all involved, with each competitor striving to do his best. It's about trying. And succeeding.

The Special Olympics oath is "Let me win. But if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt."

Source : http://pravstalk.com/special-olympics/

How does a man's brain differ from a woman's brain

This video helped to answer one of my questions which was never answered in the first place!

2 years in the land of opportunity

As I type this post I realize that 2 years ago, exactly at this very moment I was waiting at the airport in Chennai to board my flight. I really can't believe that I survived these 2 years. I decided to leave behind my nest to fly away to the land of opportunity, seeking peace of mind.

I realized, this world is full of selfish opportunists and nothing else.

Whatever! Someone told me, "if you can't adapt yourself to this world, you will perish". If I have to give up my ethics, my morality and the good lessons I learnt just to survive in this world, I'd rather forsake this sick world.

Everybody lies, everybody cheats and everybody talks behind your back! Shameless creatures... and I really can't fathom one thing these days, even girls are okay with consensual sex before marriage. :S I was stunned to hear this from a girl.

In my research I've noticed that the sexual liberation of women has changed things for sure.... and like I mentioned earlier, the opportunists are making good use of these biatches.

Happy reproducing ba$tards and biatches !!!

A simple lesson to courage and strength

Don't whine,
Don't complain,
Don't give excuses....

Just heard this on tv from a basketball coach who lost his leg and still coaches high school kids...

This is exactly what I'm trying to do in the past few weeks...

iPost from my iPhone 3GS

Now posting seems easy... I guess I should pick up photo blogging soon.

Weekend as usual....

Agnel

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The Mentalist is awesome

Thanks Raj :) for showing me this piece of class. I'm completely in love with the characters and no points for guessing my favorite :D. The entire unit just gels as a family and I like each one of them. The simple smiles once in a while and the good deeds done by them is just beautiful.

Lot of things to learn.

1. Attention to details
2. Bring people to justice
3. Smile whenever possible
4. Be good to people
5. Learn to trust some and not to trust everyone.

Patrick Jane, the lead is one awesome man. A tormented past and one who is willing to admit he had treatment. Everyone has an emotional breakdown at one point of time in their lives, but they have to believe in themselves and come back strong. They have to be good to themselves and also good to others. Guilt and mistakes done will surely haunt us for long, but only until we let it haunt us. We make mistakes, we learn to not commit them in the future. A bright gentleman who is willing to help people around him and also people unknown to him. Something I can relate myself with. Don't know why, but I see myself in him at times.

Lisbon played by Robin Tunney, oh, she is a beauty. I just adore her and her beautiful(crappy as anyone would say) voice just keeps me happy for some reason. She understands her unit very well and always support them just like how you'd expect a boss to support. Though she gets irritated by Jane, she always helps him and supports him. The relationship they share is too cute, the same I'd share with any female friend of mine. Nothing but friendship and that is all. I love women who tuck in their shirt and Tunney just does that :D and also her short hair.. Oh la la!

Cho, nice korean guy. Smart and straightforward.

Wayne, lover boi but very good at work! Another nice guy.

Grace, she graces the team with her presence. Nice girl who likes wayne a lot but sticks to work ethics.

Jane is like the protector of the unit and guides them all to safe shores and helps to solve crime. I've been a big fan of crime investigation(a career option which I still keep open) and want to do some good.

Every episode makes you feel you want more of them, but I'm watching one everyday. It is always good to keep things under control. More of anything would kill you....

Waiting for Season 2.... Raj, I'm hooked :D

Power of words

A friend shared this message..

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead.

The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.

The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die.

He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?"

The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.


This story teaches two lessons:

1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.

2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them.

Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words...

It is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way.

Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.

A smile is all it takes to make someone happy. Not a fake smile, but a genuine smile. :-)

Do we get what we give?

You get what you give, I grew up reading this quote. Suddenly it just struck me, do we really get what we give?

This was in similar lines with "What goes around, comes around".

I have some questions now.

Why do we get negative outcomes for our positive actions?
Why are there no outcomes for some actions?

... and the questions continue.. without answers....